He delights in you

“Alright Lord, what am I doing wrong right now? What do I need to fix? Show me how I am failing so I can get better.”
How many times do we fall into the mindset that all God wants to do is tell us what we need to do better?

I remember a time I was having lunch with some friends, and as I was being goofy and having a fun and care-free time, one of my friends was just looking at me and smiling. I asked why they were smiling at me for no reason, they said“I’m just delighting in you”. As soon as I heard this, I realized: that’s what the Father does with us, but how many times do we forget that? We go into our prayer thinking that in the next hour, God wants to redirect us and show us how we can do better by showing us all the things we are doing wrong.  

What kind of a good Father is that? Why do we so often forget that God loves more than we can understand, and that He does not want to just show us what we are doing wrong, but that He simply delights in us. Like the good Father that He is, God delights in us, but how often do we forget to allow Him to actually love us like He wants to love us?
Of course, there is something to be said for the need for constant conversion, and we shouldn’t be always thinking we have nothing to improve upon, but since we so often forget that God delights in us, we actually carry that out into our encounters with others, and forget that God also delights in them. If we are not allowing God to delight in us and to love us, we simply cannot delight in others and see them with the eyes of God and love them as they deserve to be loved. The measure that we allow God to give us is the measure that we will then give to others, so if all we pray about is how can we fix ourselves, all we will see in others is what they are also doing wrong. But that is not what God thinks when He looks at us with love and to see how God truly sees us, look at the words of Isaiah 43:
I have called you by name, you are mine… You are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you.

I don’t know about you, but that definitely does not sound like a Father who wants to constantly correct His children and punish them for what they are doing wrong. Those are the words of a Father who loves His children beyond measure, who simply wants them to know how good they are and for what eternal goodness He created them.
But how do we allow the Father to delight in us?

If we go and pray, and allow the Father to delight in us through a simple “Father, I give you permission to delight in me right now” or a “How did I make you proud today?” we allow God to love us and we open our eyes to see ourselves as God sees us: as His beloved children. Being a child of God is simple, there’s no need to over-complicate it with a 5-step plan or a detailed formula.
You don’t have to do anything, you can’t do anything to earn His love, He just loves. He just delights in His children. And when we know who we are and how much the Father loves us, we see that in everyone we encounter, as we transform our hearts to understand how He delights in us.